Dating someone who has herpes, post navigation
He had been infected as a teenager and was used to managing outbreaks and mixed reactions from partners, which explains why he was so patient with me. HOWEVER, from my perspective, it's better to assume you may very well catch it, and AFTER you are reasonably sure that the relationship may last for awhile, I would suggest yes, I know VERY controversially that you abandon taking precautions like condoms just like you would in a relationship with any girl that believed didn't have herpes, and especially at that dating someone who has herpes, to stop getting up immediately after sex to scrub your privates.
That's no reason to plunge head-first into the STD pool, but don't castigate the guy just because he doesn't want to get an incurable infectious disease.
Tips for Dating Someone With Herpes
And of those people, it's likely that at least one will come around, and say, "Hey, I understand there's a risk, but I'm crazy about you, so I'm willing to take it. I did the research, considered the circumstances infrequent, consistently predictable outbreaksand went ahead with the relationship. Herpes prodrome include itchiness, tingling, burning, numbness, aches, shooting pains, and other sensations and can appear 30 minutes to a couple of days before an outbreak.
Things break, things go wrong.
But as many others have said, it's not the end of the world. Some people get outbreaks and some don't. What a slutty joke. It's great that she's being honest here, but by disclosing this, she's offering you the chance to take things no further, with no hard feelings. Post was not sent - check your email addresses! Maybe she got it from a wrestling mat. He was distraught but finding out more helped him get it in perspective.
Dealing With Rejection
It's true that some people catch herpes and have no outbreaks at all, or have outbreaks that are fairly infrequent and mild. But I don't think that a lifetime of no sex with the rest of the human race doesn't sound very realistic either.
Only you can decide what constitutes an acceptable risk, but sleeping with her might be safer than you realize From what little you've told us, it sounds like she's got her head screwed on straight. Hi John, glad my blog has helped!
Asymptomatic viral shedding is a real thing, and I know that someone with herpes can theoretically transmit at any time. It seems irrational to make such a distinction. I really appreciate how supportive this forum is. These are viruses, remember. If you're in "like" with her, I can see how it would be.
The incubation period for herpes is usually 1 to 7 days but may incubate for longer, even weeks, before showing any symptoms.